Who directs the course of our life? Who determines our personality? Who decides that we are the way we are? The emotions. Without a doubt, the true captains of our ship. Emotions arrive suddenly. They are born with our son. They are the ones that will give you the perfect tools to deal with all kinds of situations, and will encourage you to act, react and give answers.
Why does the baby sometimes cry inconsolably? Why are you laughing? Why do you reject a certain food? Emotions start to work. Our son will have to learn to use them. Is not easy. In fact, many adults still feel unable to control their impulses.
Joy, sadness, anger, fear and disgust are the names of the 5 great emotions that drive our lives. As they wonderfully explain in the Pixar movie 'Inside Out' ('Inside Out'). Joy, of course, is the emotion that should rule over the rest. But sometimes happiness cannot come without first letting Sadness do its job. But ... why are all these emotions necessary? According to the study Psychology of Emotion, by Mariano Choliz, from the Department of Basic Psychology at the University of Valencia, emotions have an adaptive function, an emotional one and a motivational one.
Perhaps at a certain moment fear needs to make an appearance. If our son was not afraid of anything, he would constantly put his life at risk. The child is afraid of falling, afraid of stumbling ... but also afraid of not being able to achieve what he sets out to do.
Fear, on the other hand, makes the child set challenges and struggle to overcome them. To learn. And why not make him feel invincible. But it is a double-edged sword: fear can also block you and even lead to panic. It is the highest level of alertness of our body: if we teach our child to use fear to grow, it will be a powerful weapon for him.
Resources to understand children's fear
Disgust helps to choose, to learn to say No. It helps the child to form a personality: 'I want this because I don't like this'. If disgust did not exist (not understood only as disgust for food, but with rejection of certain things or aspects of life), our son would be so extremely conformist that he could not have a strong personality or make important decisions in life.
True, anger is the 'least smart' of emotions. When you get carried away, there is no reasoning. It explodes. But it is necessary, yes. Sometimes anger then leads to sadness ... and sadness gives way to joy. From anger you also learn.
It is normal for anger to appear in our child when someone hits him, or when he is taken advantage of. It is in a way a defense weapon, a way of understanding 'I don't like this' this makes me angry' ... 'I don't want to feel that way' And in that moment anger sets up a mechanism to think about how to defend yourself before all that which causes anger.
Without sadness there could be no joy. They are complementary. How are we to know how wonderful laughter is if we never cry? Sadness often makes us reflect, delve deeper into our feelings, and motivates us to overcome and deal with what is doing us so much harm.
Why do we feel sad? What can we do to prevent it? But beware: sadness can also lead the child to lose hope and lead to depression. Always, after a moment of sadness, we must try to make joy reappear. And, if this is not the case, symptoms such as aggressive behaviors, low self-esteem, sleeping a lot or little, eating irregularly, interest in leaving home or conversations about suicide already appear, we should consult a specialist.
Joy is the engine that drives our son's life. We all want our child to be happy, to be happy. But we must understand that it is impossible for it to always be this way and that there are many children who find it difficult to express that emotion or feeling.
Happiness is made up of great moments of joy and small moments of anger, fear, sadness and disgust. Because joy also needs the rest to continue on its way.
Emotions, those great unknown to our children. We can help you understand them. Sit with your child, talk to him, express yours and try to explain how you feel. He's angry? He felt anger. Why? Make him ask himself all these questions and above all, make him understand that none of these emotions is bad. All, absolutely all, are necessary and from all of them you can learn.
Children's stories are a good resource to work on children's emotions. The stories arouse different emotions in children. We have selected some stories that speak of sadness, joy, and other emotions such as disgust, anger, frustration and fear.
The boy and the nails. A tale about anger
Help your child understand the reactions he has, what he feels, when he is angry and what consequences it has, with this story. A story to understand the frustrations.
Juan without fear. A tale about fear
This story of Juan without fear is an example that you can face and overcome your fears. An ideal story to encourage and help children face their fears, with courage and courage.
The city without colors. Tale about sadness
A story that teaches the value of a smile. This story 'The city without colors' talks to children about the search for happiness, it teaches children that smiling and putting on a good face makes our day a little bit happier, while sadness only generates more sadness.
The bottle of happiness. Tale about joy
Can you imagine that it could? That there was a magic potion that just by drinking it you would become a happy person? This is the story of a man who goes to a store where joy is sold because he is sick (very sad). Will he be able to heal?
Little frog, the frog. Children's tale about disgust
Children can feel the emotion of disgust several times a day: disgust at a plate of food, insects, garbage .. And, as not the only ones, the children's story of 'Little Frog, the frog', can help. Tell this story of the little frog so that your children understand what disgust is.
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