We all know that cheeky child who knows everything, who does not let people speak, who does not listen, who does not accept reprimands, who disrespect adults and children ... A child with these attitudes is a challenge for parents. In many cases children show such intelligent attitudes that it is even difficult to see the impertinence, and that is where the north of education is lost, letting small attitudes transform your little one into the "typical child annoying to others." I tell you I give you tools to detain intrusive or intrusive children.
Impertinence is the result of behaviors that have not been corrected in due course. At first, the cunning to answer, understand and interpret a fact can be funny and more when we talk about young children. Parents may see it as cunning, prideful, funny, etc. Although these characteristics are somehow demonstrating the child's intelligence, it is important to guide this evolution so that it focuses on positive acts that add value to the family and society.
The question of whether a fact should be corrected or not is something normal and that at some point it can happen to all of us. For example, if you talk with your four-year-old daughter about a mistake she made, but she far from acknowledging her mistake, she responds with a very similar example about a mistake you made 'What do you say?'
This is a simple example that can be funny because of the cunning she shows being so small, but if you do not correct and let the girl develop a lack of empathy, difficulty in recognizing mistakes and, even, lack of respect towards the parents, not accepting that they correct him, they will the sweet girl becomes the feared unbearable girl that society pushes away and begins to discriminate.
This behavioral trait is closely related, as explained in the report 'Serious conduct disorders', prepared by the Junta de Andalucía de España, with the inability to delay or self-control motor or verbal responses. For example, difficulty waiting for the turn, interruption and interference with the activities of others, giving hasty responses or impertinent comments, difficulties maintaining the conversation ...
Those of us who are parents know that children are testing how far they can go with their attitudes and they also test how far we let go without imposing reprimands. They are exploring their limits and ours, testing our capacity for reaction, patience and intelligence to face unexpected events.
It may be that at times we are not agile in observing, assessing and acting on bad behavior. In this case, you can do two things: accept that this is the case and let it go, or analyze the situation to gain confidence about how to act and talk about it with your children in an empathic way, even if the event itself has happened hours or even days ago. The challenge is to learn from the hand of our children and get it right!
- Establish good manners
Talking about what is politically correct in terms of 'good manners' is complicated, since each person can see a situation differently depending on their experiences or tastes. However, it is important that have a guide of behaviors in accordance with your values and instill them in your children.It strengthens behaviors such as waiting, keeping quiet in the face of conversations that are not their concern, respecting objects that are not theirs, actively listening when someone speaks, moderating games depending on the place ...
- Respect adults
Instilling your children that they must respect both children and adults is important, however it is essential that children understand that they must treat the elderly differently and that this respect must be taken into account in words, context and deeds. It teaches the importance of valuing the experience and learning acquired in adults.
- Ask for their opinion and express how important it is to you
Children will feel valued and important if we ask for their opinion from time to time. In this way, it will be easier for them to understand that there are other moments when they cannot have an opinion, so that they find the balance between being silent and speaking. Doing so helps children grasp learning more effectively and fosters respect for others. When we teach a child to be quiet, we are teaching him to listen!
- Consistency between what you say and do
How do you react to a person who says one thing but does another? The usual thing is not to follow him and do what you think is right. This behavior takes away credibility and respect. Act consistently and they will act consistently anywhere!
There are little tricks that can get you out of trouble using distraction. But remember, it's important that you find the time to talk about courage and strengthen positive behaviors. Keep in mind that if you constantly use these techniques the child will learn them and they will stop working.
1. Changes the subject unexpectedly For example, propose a game or activity change.
2. Use surprise: Play a joke or tickle him to distract him from bad behavior.
3. Gives limited options, For example, if your child insists that he wants something that he cannot have, give him a choice between two options that seem good to you. In this way the child believes that he has achieved his goal.
4. Make a sudden gesture or noise. Drawing attention in an unusual way distracts the mind, so it will be easier to focus on good behavior.
Don't assume that your child is that way or that. Work on their education to strengthen their evolution!
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