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Child tantrums, what are they and why do they occur?


Child tantrums they are a state of impatience and anger typical of young children, especially in the second year of life. Generally, tantrums are usually caused by a minor reason and, in this case, they are short-lived.

Regarding age, tantrums can happen at any age, but they are more frequent between 18 months and 3 years, although childhood tantrums can last up to 5 or 6 years and gradually disappear afterwards.

Child tantrums can be caused by frustration, anger, confusion, and fear. Inevitably all children between 18 months and after 3 years rebel against parental authority and claim their individuality, while trying to explore and learn where the limits are. Children between 1 and 3 years old with tantrums:

- They do not tolerate any form of control well

- They fight for their independence, are more demanding and are more challenging

- They debate between independence and dependence

- They want control and will try to control their parents

- Generally, they suffer tantrums

There are many causes that can trigger a tantrum, some of which are getting attention, wanting what is not yours, trying to show how independent you are, or feeling tired and frustrated.

1. Get attention. A child's first tantrum begins only to attract attention, and rarely to manipulate parents, but if the reward for a tantrum is receiving a lot of rewarding attention it can be a major reason for another tantrum soon.

2. Wanting something you don't have. They must learn to wait and accept what we tell them. IF we tell you that we are not going to give you a piece of candy or that a friend will not give you his toy, you will have to accept that you cannot have everything you want.

3. Try to prove your independence. When they try to do something and it doesn't work out, we try to help them, but they don't want to, they get frustrated because they can't do it alone.

4. Internal frustration. The feeling of growing impatience coupled with your limited ability to succeed with the things you are trying, or not being able to fully express what you want due to a lack of language skills, can trigger a tantrum.

5. Jealousy. They are addressed to a brother or sister, when their desire to achieve something is not fulfilled.

Maria Algueró
Child specialist
Expert in Early Intervention
Blog Atencionycuñadosdelbebe.com

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